5 ways you are unknowingly destroying your husband and killing your marriage

by malin

Women, we need to be careful about how we are caring for our husbands and marriages. Don’t let the small stuff ruin the things that will bring you the greatest happiness in life.

This article was linked by a gaming buddy of mine this weekend. My response to the article and what I thought of it made him subsequently unfriend me on facebook. I admit reading this article with my skeptic shades on, and if you don’t want to read the article, here’s a short summary;

1. Living outside of what you can afford
Women, as your husband is the one working and you have NO clue about economy, maxing out credit cards, stop shopping! This will make your husband happy.
2. Constant negativity
Nag nag nag! Don’t bitch and whine. Don’t you fucking dare get depressed from being a stay at home mom. Or at least deal with it on your own. This will make your husband happy.
3. Putting everything else first
Don’t dare to have dreams and try to achieve them, always put your husband first. This will make your husband happy.
4. Withholding physical affection
When he gently puts pressure on your shoulders, trying to guide your head towards his nether regions, remember, you have a loving, romantic husband who wants to share something so beautiful and important with you – and you only. Give him sex when he wants it. This will make your husband happy.
5. Not speaking his language
Men are genetically dumb and women are genetically erratic. Either way, communicate on his terms, don’t expect him to make an effort when it comes to communication. Not having to communicate with you will make your husband happy.

All from “How to be a good conservative realldoll housewife” on familyshare.
Biggest piece of crap-conservative-taliban-propaganda I’ve seen in a long time. Are american women really THIS subdued and oppressed that they really don’t reflect over how sexist the text is? You just take the first disclaimer “this goes for men too” as an ok for assumptions such as

“A wise old woman from my church congregation once advised: “The best thing you can do as a wife is to live within your husband’s means.”"…”Constantly complaining about not having enough to fulfill your lavish desires or racking up astronomical amounts of debt on your credit card is a poor way of saying “thank you” to a faithful spouse who works hard every day to provide for the family.”

Oh well, screw that christian domestic propaganda, here’s the right version of what to do to keep a relationship together:

1. Economy
Talk about it. Make sure you both know what incomes and expenses you have. Take equal responsibility.
If money is tight; Make a budget and follow it. Trust the budget, know that as long as you follow it, it will be alright. Focus on positive things and how you are heading for something better.
If the economy is good; Make a budget and follow it. Make room for personal leisure. Be aware that with good economy comes backlashes, especially if you have turned your economy around recently.

2. Mental Health
Talk to each other about how you REALLY feel. Feeling angry or having trouble coping with seemingly insignificant details is a classic sign of depression. Chances are pretty high that either one of you will be depressed at some point in your life. It is perfectly normal, and nothing to try to hide, get help! Take care of each other.

3. Priorities
Talk to each other about your dreams and hopes. Support each other. Maybe one of you have had a life long dream of studying something, that might mean sacrifices for both of you for a period of time. Maybe one of you have a parent or family member who gets sick and need some extra attention.
But most importantly, be there for each other. Don’t be egoistic.

4A. Intimacy
Talk about how you show love and affection. We have different ways of showing affection. For some, the highest form of intimacy is talking, for others it can be physical touch. Some show their love by caring for each other with the little things, making coffee or breakfast for the other one. Intimacy is not all about sex for everyone. Intimacy is the glue of a relationship, make time for it.
4B. Monkeysex
Talk to each other. Make time for it.

5. Communication and acknowledgment

Communication:
Learning how the other one communicates is vital for a relationship. Adapt to each other. Talk about misunderstandings. Never assume the worst.
Acknowledgment:
Chances are high that your partner encounters wrongdoings. It can be something as simple as a shitty boss. But it can also be something complex such as discrimination due to things such as gender, color of the skin, sexual orientation or age to mention a few. It is vital for a relationship to understand that we aren’t all treated equal and that your partner might experience discrimination. Acknowledge your partners frustration over situations that might occur. Know that what you can do is to enlighten yourself about the situation and support your partner.

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Malin

Malin Grön


Malin Grön is the International Content Manager for the MalinGron.com site. She doesn’t think you give a shit about her educations. She is a firm advocate for happiness and love. She´s kissed a lot of frogs and frogettes but shes had the same partner since 1999. That’s gotta count for something.